Stay In the Present

Be-Present Good evening everyone! I hope you had a great weekend. We are almost through chapter 1 of The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick. I am really enjoying this book, and I hope you are! To be fair to you as a reader, and fair to the author, the remaining posts about this book will be more of my thoughts and feelings, vs. having just a summary of what I read. I hope you don’t mind.

Ever dream about what your life would have been like if you had taken a different path? Ever dream about what your life will be like in the future? I would be lying if I said no to either one of those questions. I have caught myself thinking more about the future, than the past lately.My past haunts me and my future though.

The decisions about my future, and where my life is going, ultimately could have been taken care of in the past. My health, finances, and living arrangements, could be completely different if my decisions and actions would have been different. Honestly, all this is doing is playing the what-if game. God says to do things differently.

Determined men refuse the nostalgia of the pastor the speculation of the future. Instead, they embrace the present because they know that every choice right now determines how the future will look. They don’t shrink from reality by courageously confront it. They stare down the temptation to escape into the past or daydream about the days ahead, while fighting to embrace the world around them even as they seek to change it for the better.– Darrin Patrick

I am going to challenge myself to live daily in the present. What can I do each day to live this way? What can I accomplish each day, that will make my situation better?

Will you take that challenge?

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Friday Night Date Night (4/24/2015)

pacman-2 It’s Friday readers! You know what that means! It’s DATE NIGHT!

Just like last Friday, today I will be featuring a randomly selected date idea from 52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide For Praying, Playing, and Staying Together by Randy Southern.

Arcade Date

Jesus encourages us to bring childlike perspective to our walk with Him. Children are trusting, humble, dependent, and able to be shaped and molded. Being childlike occasionally will help our spiritual. emotional, and relational health.

1) Try and find an old-school arcade that has games from your youth.This will allow you to re-connect with your younger self. That is what this date is all about.

2) Help each other understand why those games meant something to you. Maybe share some stories about going to an arcade when you were younger.

3) Play games as a team or even against each other. Make sure both of you gets equal time playing.

AVOID BEING OVER COMPETITIVE! HAVE FUN AND DON’T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY!

Before your date ends, involve a discussion about your faith.

Deeper Connection

What does it mean to have childlike faith?

What are some of the things that happen to people’s faith as they get older that Jesus wants us to avoid?

How can we encourage each other to maintain a childlike faith?

Check out the following scripture that talk about childlike perspective.

Psalm 8:2

Matthew 19:14

Mark 10:13-16

Well I hope you enjoy your date night!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Convince Your Head, And Your Body Will Follow

Brain-head-with-cog-wheelsHello again readers! I hope your day has been blessed.

I really hope you are enjoying my posts on The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick. To start at the beginning, click here.

I want you to do something.Think about a place in your life where your thoughts are out of control. Call a friend and let them know your discouragement and ask them for a regular phone conversation to talk through it.

Some of us are beaten at our own game, even before we push play. We don’t expect to win. The majority of the battle is having the determination to NEVER quit. Having that “can’t lose” mentality can go a long way towards becoming a determined person.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Lose Your Excuses

no-excuses Good Monday afternoon everyone! I hope you enjoyed your weekend!

Today we will be discussing excuses. If you don’t already know, we are currently reading The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick. To start at the beginning, click here.

We have been talking about what holds us back. What are the excuses you give? A popular excuse that we give for the lack of focus, direction, and drive is our upbringing. A lot of people don’t realize that the past doesn’t have to determine your current or future.

Determination done right is to say no to one thing and yes to something else. We have to face the past and pick the right path forward. As you know, things will get in the way as we go down that path. The choices we make won’t come easy.

The key to success is to lose the excuses, and quit viewing yourself as a victim of circumstance.

The time is now. Do you accept the challenge?

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Friday Night Date Night (04/17/2015)

DateNightGood morning everyone! Today is Friday, and what does that mean? It’s date night! See ladies, I told you I would be posting just for you. The date nights will be posted every Friday while I am blogging through The Dude’s Guide to Manhood. Each date will be different, and will be coming from the book 52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide For Praying, Playing, and Staying Together by Randy Southern.

THE LEGO DATE

Can two adults really have a great date with nothing more than a pile of small, brightly colored notched bricks? That’s the question the Lego Date aims to answer. The key is not necessarily the activity itself, but what it represents—- and what it encourages you to talk about. During this date, you are building something as a team—- just as you are in your life together.

1) Choose your medium. It doesn’t have to be Legos. It could be Lincoln Logs.

2) The cheaper the better. No need to spend $300.00 on a Star Wars set.

3) Aim for maximum togetherness. Both of you should be hands-on during construction.

4) Use the building analogy as a jumping-off point for conversation. You’re building a relationship, a family, a life together, and a vehicle for God’s work. Talk about how the “construction” has gone to this point. How well have you learned to work together? Are you satisfied with the results?

5) Take pictures. Pose with your work.

Before your date ends, take it to God. Thank God for your significant other. Thank Him for the influence that relationship has had on your life. Ask Him to help you maintain a spirit fo cooperation and mutual respect for what the other person brings to the “building process”.

DEEPER CONNECTION

Here is some scripture about building something together.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Joshua 24:15

Colossians 3:12-14

Well I hope you enjoy your date night!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Turning To Face The Struggles In Life

logoGood Thursday afternoon! Tomorrow is Friday! I have a little something for the ladies planned for tomorrow, so stay tuned for that!

So.. Let’s pick up The Dude’s Guide To Manhoodand continue our study! If you want to start at the beginning, click here.

Struggle. Everyone struggles from time to time. God designed life to be that way. Life is not always fun and games. That is just a fact we have to get used to. Becoming that determined man, doesn’t mean you have to ignore the struggles of life. We need to let God’s supernatural strength persevere in the midst of our struggle.

Determination isn’t always about succeeding. Sometimes determination simply means surviving, pressing on in the face of what feels like insurmountable obstacles. — Darrin Patrick

What do you struggle with? Have you talked with God or anyone about them?

James 1:2-4 “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete,lacking in nothing.”

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Get It Done: Become A Determined Man

ambition-determination-inspirational-inspire-Favim.com-630413Happy Tuesday! I really hope you are enjoying your day.

Yesterday we started reading The Dude’s Guide To Manhood by Darrin Patrick. To skip back to that post, go here. Today, I will be covering Chapter 1. This chapter is broken up into parts, so tomorrow’s post will pick up where I leave off.

Determination. How do you define it? Persistence? Hardheadedness? Determination is defined as the firmness of purpose; resoluteness. It also is refusing to quit until we accomplish our goals. Sadly, most men quit. Why is that?

Mr. Patrick states it perfectly:

Men hit the eject button and hide in juvenile behavior such as video games, pornography, sports leagues, or substance abuse. Other men don’t hide in their activities—- they hide in themselves. They remain silent, consistently passive, and socially awkward. Still others hide with their friends, delaying marriage or, if married, avoiding connection with their wives.

Are the goals that we create for ourselves to big to achieve? Do things get in the way of our goals? Something should get in the way from reaching our goals, no matter how big or small they are. With God on our side, and determination on our mind we can do anything!

I myself have, and currently struggle with big goals There are several things keeping me from reaching them. The main thing keeping from achieving my goals is trust in God. I have no problem putting that out there.

Romans 5:3-5 “Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”

Think about what your goals are and what is standing in your way.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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