Men Without Maps

RoadMap Afternoon all! I hope your Monday is treating you well. Today we start a journey to MANHOOD! Yes, the majority of us are physically there, but are we mentally, emotionally, or even spiritually?

Today starts the beginning of The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick. This post specifically will outline both forwards and the introduction.

So… What does it mean to be a man? The world’s opinion of being a man consists of several different things. Parts of the world have rites of passage to go from being a boy to a man. Some believe you are a man when you turn 18. Others believe it is when you lose your virginity. It could also be a result of being financially successful. This book is about finding manliness in a world of counterfeits.

Willie Robertson (CEO of Duck Commander and Buck Commander; Executive Producer of Duck Dynasty) states that:

Money and success do not give us true joy. They may make us happy for a time, but lasting joy comes from something way bigger.

Steven Jackson (NFL Running Back) states the following:

We live in a world of boys masquerading as men. It grieves my heart to see our world falling apart mainly because of the failure of men. As crazy as it might sound, as men go, so goes the world. Men are responsible for much bad, but they could be responsible for so much good. It is a tragedy to see so many men living beneath the privilege of true masculinity. Many men want the easy fix, the quick hit, the fast promotion.

Each of us has our own journey with God that takes us through many peaks and valleys along the way. Figuring out what and how to strengthen, sustain, and endure for the job ahead is the hardest task men face every day.

Naturally as men we want to figure it all out and know exactly how everything will turn out in the end. However, God has not orchestrated life to be that simple. We need a guide and this book can help men trust God and navigate the path before them with wisdom.

After reading the forwards and the introduction by Mr. Patrick, a couple of things stood out to me.

My story is similar but different from his. To make a long story short, I spend the first few years of my childhood without a father. The guy I call dad now, stepped into my life when I was about 4. He legally adopted me when I was 6 or so. Looking back, he tried to raise me the best he and my mother knew how. For that, I commend them. They tried to lay down a map or guideline on how life was supposed to be. Could they have done it differently? Sure. Could it have been better? Probably. In all honesty though, part of who I am as a person today is because of their guidance.

Darrin states that:

A man without a map will be a man without a heart; He’ll lack both passion and compassion.

A man without a map will be a man without a spine; He’ll lack  both conviction and courage.

Many men overcompensate for a lack of fathering and become aggressive chauvinists, while others shrink back and become passive cowards.

In the last part of the introduction, Mr. Patrick throws out an example of how a man should live, and what the qualities for true masculinity should be. Please watch the following clip from Dead Poets Society.

So boys.. I will leave you with this. Carpe Diem. Seize the Day!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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