Men Without Maps

RoadMap Afternoon all! I hope your Monday is treating you well. Today we start a journey to MANHOOD! Yes, the majority of us are physically there, but are we mentally, emotionally, or even spiritually?

Today starts the beginning of The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick. This post specifically will outline both forwards and the introduction.

So… What does it mean to be a man? The world’s opinion of being a man consists of several different things. Parts of the world have rites of passage to go from being a boy to a man. Some believe you are a man when you turn 18. Others believe it is when you lose your virginity. It could also be a result of being financially successful. This book is about finding manliness in a world of counterfeits.

Willie Robertson (CEO of Duck Commander and Buck Commander; Executive Producer of Duck Dynasty) states that:

Money and success do not give us true joy. They may make us happy for a time, but lasting joy comes from something way bigger.

Steven Jackson (NFL Running Back) states the following:

We live in a world of boys masquerading as men. It grieves my heart to see our world falling apart mainly because of the failure of men. As crazy as it might sound, as men go, so goes the world. Men are responsible for much bad, but they could be responsible for so much good. It is a tragedy to see so many men living beneath the privilege of true masculinity. Many men want the easy fix, the quick hit, the fast promotion.

Each of us has our own journey with God that takes us through many peaks and valleys along the way. Figuring out what and how to strengthen, sustain, and endure for the job ahead is the hardest task men face every day.

Naturally as men we want to figure it all out and know exactly how everything will turn out in the end. However, God has not orchestrated life to be that simple. We need a guide and this book can help men trust God and navigate the path before them with wisdom.

After reading the forwards and the introduction by Mr. Patrick, a couple of things stood out to me.

My story is similar but different from his. To make a long story short, I spend the first few years of my childhood without a father. The guy I call dad now, stepped into my life when I was about 4. He legally adopted me when I was 6 or so. Looking back, he tried to raise me the best he and my mother knew how. For that, I commend them. They tried to lay down a map or guideline on how life was supposed to be. Could they have done it differently? Sure. Could it have been better? Probably. In all honesty though, part of who I am as a person today is because of their guidance.

Darrin states that:

A man without a map will be a man without a heart; He’ll lack both passion and compassion.

A man without a map will be a man without a spine; He’ll lack  both conviction and courage.

Many men overcompensate for a lack of fathering and become aggressive chauvinists, while others shrink back and become passive cowards.

In the last part of the introduction, Mr. Patrick throws out an example of how a man should live, and what the qualities for true masculinity should be. Please watch the following clip from Dead Poets Society.

So boys.. I will leave you with this. Carpe Diem. Seize the Day!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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The Dude’s Guide To Manhood

manhood Good Sunday afternoon everyone! I hope that your time with God today has been awesome!

Over the next several posts, I will be reading through The Dude’s Guide To Manhood by Darrin Patrick. Now ladies I know you may be a little upset that I am focusing on the dudes with this, but who knows you may get something out of this as well. Also ladies, trust me, I will be doing something for you as well in due time.

So what is this book about? Contrary to what the title suggests, this book is not written from the perspective of “The Dude.

From Amazon.com:

Discover the path to true masculinity—to an adventurous life of strength, purpose, and clarity.

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Didn’t we used to understand manhood? Wasn’t there a time once when it was clear and straightforward? Are we lost?

Dudes, look around you: The trail we once traveled from boyhood to maturity is now so overgrown, it’s almost impossible to trace. Our vision is blurred, rendering the map that previous generations followed unreadable. Our compass needles are spinning in circles, making navigation impossible. We are stuck in dense, dangerous woods, and our communities—the wives, children, friends, and colleagues we could be influencing—are suffering as a result.

It can be tempting to give up and, like so many men today, simply exist, but take heart: Now is not the time for men to abandon our quest. We can discover the path to true masculinity—to an adventurous life of strength, purpose, and clarity.

In The Dude’s Guide to Manhood, pastor, author and dude Darrin Patrick charts a course back toward real manliness, mapping out a vision to help men find significance and influence in today’s broken, mixed-message culture. Revealing his own frailties and missteps, Patrick doesn’t preach at you but walks with you on a journey toward healing and wholeness.

Filled with timeless wisdom, accessible insights and practical guidance, The Dude’s Guide to Manhood issues an encouraging and doable call to all men, whatever your age or stage. We need not settle for wandering aimlessly through our days, wounded, weak, and passive. Instead, we can get back on the trail, embrace our gifts while facing our imperfections, and trust the God of new beginnings to lead us into all that we are destined to become: forgiven, connected, determined, teachable, content, heroic, and so much more.


I don’t know about you but, I am excited to get started!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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