Lose Your Excuses

no-excuses Good Monday afternoon everyone! I hope you enjoyed your weekend!

Today we will be discussing excuses. If you don’t already know, we are currently reading The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick. To start at the beginning, click here.

We have been talking about what holds us back. What are the excuses you give? A popular excuse that we give for the lack of focus, direction, and drive is our upbringing. A lot of people don’t realize that the past doesn’t have to determine your current or future.

Determination done right is to say no to one thing and yes to something else. We have to face the past and pick the right path forward. As you know, things will get in the way as we go down that path. The choices we make won’t come easy.

The key to success is to lose the excuses, and quit viewing yourself as a victim of circumstance.

The time is now. Do you accept the challenge?

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Friday Night Date Night (04/17/2015)

DateNightGood morning everyone! Today is Friday, and what does that mean? It’s date night! See ladies, I told you I would be posting just for you. The date nights will be posted every Friday while I am blogging through The Dude’s Guide to Manhood. Each date will be different, and will be coming from the book 52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide For Praying, Playing, and Staying Together by Randy Southern.

THE LEGO DATE

Can two adults really have a great date with nothing more than a pile of small, brightly colored notched bricks? That’s the question the Lego Date aims to answer. The key is not necessarily the activity itself, but what it represents—- and what it encourages you to talk about. During this date, you are building something as a team—- just as you are in your life together.

1) Choose your medium. It doesn’t have to be Legos. It could be Lincoln Logs.

2) The cheaper the better. No need to spend $300.00 on a Star Wars set.

3) Aim for maximum togetherness. Both of you should be hands-on during construction.

4) Use the building analogy as a jumping-off point for conversation. You’re building a relationship, a family, a life together, and a vehicle for God’s work. Talk about how the “construction” has gone to this point. How well have you learned to work together? Are you satisfied with the results?

5) Take pictures. Pose with your work.

Before your date ends, take it to God. Thank God for your significant other. Thank Him for the influence that relationship has had on your life. Ask Him to help you maintain a spirit fo cooperation and mutual respect for what the other person brings to the “building process”.

DEEPER CONNECTION

Here is some scripture about building something together.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Joshua 24:15

Colossians 3:12-14

Well I hope you enjoy your date night!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Turning To Face The Struggles In Life

logoGood Thursday afternoon! Tomorrow is Friday! I have a little something for the ladies planned for tomorrow, so stay tuned for that!

So.. Let’s pick up The Dude’s Guide To Manhoodand continue our study! If you want to start at the beginning, click here.

Struggle. Everyone struggles from time to time. God designed life to be that way. Life is not always fun and games. That is just a fact we have to get used to. Becoming that determined man, doesn’t mean you have to ignore the struggles of life. We need to let God’s supernatural strength persevere in the midst of our struggle.

Determination isn’t always about succeeding. Sometimes determination simply means surviving, pressing on in the face of what feels like insurmountable obstacles. — Darrin Patrick

What do you struggle with? Have you talked with God or anyone about them?

James 1:2-4 “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete,lacking in nothing.”

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Get It Done: Become A Determined Man

ambition-determination-inspirational-inspire-Favim.com-630413Happy Tuesday! I really hope you are enjoying your day.

Yesterday we started reading The Dude’s Guide To Manhood by Darrin Patrick. To skip back to that post, go here. Today, I will be covering Chapter 1. This chapter is broken up into parts, so tomorrow’s post will pick up where I leave off.

Determination. How do you define it? Persistence? Hardheadedness? Determination is defined as the firmness of purpose; resoluteness. It also is refusing to quit until we accomplish our goals. Sadly, most men quit. Why is that?

Mr. Patrick states it perfectly:

Men hit the eject button and hide in juvenile behavior such as video games, pornography, sports leagues, or substance abuse. Other men don’t hide in their activities—- they hide in themselves. They remain silent, consistently passive, and socially awkward. Still others hide with their friends, delaying marriage or, if married, avoiding connection with their wives.

Are the goals that we create for ourselves to big to achieve? Do things get in the way of our goals? Something should get in the way from reaching our goals, no matter how big or small they are. With God on our side, and determination on our mind we can do anything!

I myself have, and currently struggle with big goals There are several things keeping me from reaching them. The main thing keeping from achieving my goals is trust in God. I have no problem putting that out there.

Romans 5:3-5 “Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”

Think about what your goals are and what is standing in your way.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Men Without Maps

RoadMap Afternoon all! I hope your Monday is treating you well. Today we start a journey to MANHOOD! Yes, the majority of us are physically there, but are we mentally, emotionally, or even spiritually?

Today starts the beginning of The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick. This post specifically will outline both forwards and the introduction.

So… What does it mean to be a man? The world’s opinion of being a man consists of several different things. Parts of the world have rites of passage to go from being a boy to a man. Some believe you are a man when you turn 18. Others believe it is when you lose your virginity. It could also be a result of being financially successful. This book is about finding manliness in a world of counterfeits.

Willie Robertson (CEO of Duck Commander and Buck Commander; Executive Producer of Duck Dynasty) states that:

Money and success do not give us true joy. They may make us happy for a time, but lasting joy comes from something way bigger.

Steven Jackson (NFL Running Back) states the following:

We live in a world of boys masquerading as men. It grieves my heart to see our world falling apart mainly because of the failure of men. As crazy as it might sound, as men go, so goes the world. Men are responsible for much bad, but they could be responsible for so much good. It is a tragedy to see so many men living beneath the privilege of true masculinity. Many men want the easy fix, the quick hit, the fast promotion.

Each of us has our own journey with God that takes us through many peaks and valleys along the way. Figuring out what and how to strengthen, sustain, and endure for the job ahead is the hardest task men face every day.

Naturally as men we want to figure it all out and know exactly how everything will turn out in the end. However, God has not orchestrated life to be that simple. We need a guide and this book can help men trust God and navigate the path before them with wisdom.

After reading the forwards and the introduction by Mr. Patrick, a couple of things stood out to me.

My story is similar but different from his. To make a long story short, I spend the first few years of my childhood without a father. The guy I call dad now, stepped into my life when I was about 4. He legally adopted me when I was 6 or so. Looking back, he tried to raise me the best he and my mother knew how. For that, I commend them. They tried to lay down a map or guideline on how life was supposed to be. Could they have done it differently? Sure. Could it have been better? Probably. In all honesty though, part of who I am as a person today is because of their guidance.

Darrin states that:

A man without a map will be a man without a heart; He’ll lack both passion and compassion.

A man without a map will be a man without a spine; He’ll lack  both conviction and courage.

Many men overcompensate for a lack of fathering and become aggressive chauvinists, while others shrink back and become passive cowards.

In the last part of the introduction, Mr. Patrick throws out an example of how a man should live, and what the qualities for true masculinity should be. Please watch the following clip from Dead Poets Society.

So boys.. I will leave you with this. Carpe Diem. Seize the Day!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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The Dude’s Guide To Manhood

manhood Good Sunday afternoon everyone! I hope that your time with God today has been awesome!

Over the next several posts, I will be reading through The Dude’s Guide To Manhood by Darrin Patrick. Now ladies I know you may be a little upset that I am focusing on the dudes with this, but who knows you may get something out of this as well. Also ladies, trust me, I will be doing something for you as well in due time.

So what is this book about? Contrary to what the title suggests, this book is not written from the perspective of “The Dude.

From Amazon.com:

Discover the path to true masculinity—to an adventurous life of strength, purpose, and clarity.

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Didn’t we used to understand manhood? Wasn’t there a time once when it was clear and straightforward? Are we lost?

Dudes, look around you: The trail we once traveled from boyhood to maturity is now so overgrown, it’s almost impossible to trace. Our vision is blurred, rendering the map that previous generations followed unreadable. Our compass needles are spinning in circles, making navigation impossible. We are stuck in dense, dangerous woods, and our communities—the wives, children, friends, and colleagues we could be influencing—are suffering as a result.

It can be tempting to give up and, like so many men today, simply exist, but take heart: Now is not the time for men to abandon our quest. We can discover the path to true masculinity—to an adventurous life of strength, purpose, and clarity.

In The Dude’s Guide to Manhood, pastor, author and dude Darrin Patrick charts a course back toward real manliness, mapping out a vision to help men find significance and influence in today’s broken, mixed-message culture. Revealing his own frailties and missteps, Patrick doesn’t preach at you but walks with you on a journey toward healing and wholeness.

Filled with timeless wisdom, accessible insights and practical guidance, The Dude’s Guide to Manhood issues an encouraging and doable call to all men, whatever your age or stage. We need not settle for wandering aimlessly through our days, wounded, weak, and passive. Instead, we can get back on the trail, embrace our gifts while facing our imperfections, and trust the God of new beginnings to lead us into all that we are destined to become: forgiven, connected, determined, teachable, content, heroic, and so much more.


I don’t know about you but, I am excited to get started!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Continuing The Adventure

54a67bddab9630_conquer the mountain Hello again! Wow, I never thought I would write in this blog again. Honestly, I thought that all my previous entries had been erased. It has been 3 years since I touched this blog. The other day, I felt a pull. That pull, I believe, is God telling me to write again. Whether this be for myself, or for others, only He knows. So, let’s see where this leads.

For those new to this site,or for anyone needing a refresher, I started this blog based off of a devotional that was presented at a small-group Christmas party back on December 13th, 2009.

In that devotional, the man leading it challenged us to live by a specific scripture.

Romans 8:15 (The Message)

This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It’s adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike “What’s next, Papa?”

That message really sparked something in me to deepen my life with Christ.

Upon being challenged with that message, I decided to start doing a quiet time. During that quiet time, God told me to write. Time got in the way of that about 3 years ago, so I stopped writing. Honestly, I wish I hadn’t. By writing this blog, I learned so much about God, and well myself. Writing about what I was experiencing, reading, music I was listening to, Christian news, etc., was my quiet time with Him.

I am anxious to start connecting more with Him.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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