Friday Night Date Night (4/24/2015)

pacman-2 It’s Friday readers! You know what that means! It’s DATE NIGHT!

Just like last Friday, today I will be featuring a randomly selected date idea from 52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide For Praying, Playing, and Staying Together by Randy Southern.

Arcade Date

Jesus encourages us to bring childlike perspective to our walk with Him. Children are trusting, humble, dependent, and able to be shaped and molded. Being childlike occasionally will help our spiritual. emotional, and relational health.

1) Try and find an old-school arcade that has games from your youth.This will allow you to re-connect with your younger self. That is what this date is all about.

2) Help each other understand why those games meant something to you. Maybe share some stories about going to an arcade when you were younger.

3) Play games as a team or even against each other. Make sure both of you gets equal time playing.

AVOID BEING OVER COMPETITIVE! HAVE FUN AND DON’T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY!

Before your date ends, involve a discussion about your faith.

Deeper Connection

What does it mean to have childlike faith?

What are some of the things that happen to people’s faith as they get older that Jesus wants us to avoid?

How can we encourage each other to maintain a childlike faith?

Check out the following scripture that talk about childlike perspective.

Psalm 8:2

Matthew 19:14

Mark 10:13-16

Well I hope you enjoy your date night!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Friday Night Date Night (04/17/2015)

DateNightGood morning everyone! Today is Friday, and what does that mean? It’s date night! See ladies, I told you I would be posting just for you. The date nights will be posted every Friday while I am blogging through The Dude’s Guide to Manhood. Each date will be different, and will be coming from the book 52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide For Praying, Playing, and Staying Together by Randy Southern.

THE LEGO DATE

Can two adults really have a great date with nothing more than a pile of small, brightly colored notched bricks? That’s the question the Lego Date aims to answer. The key is not necessarily the activity itself, but what it represents—- and what it encourages you to talk about. During this date, you are building something as a team—- just as you are in your life together.

1) Choose your medium. It doesn’t have to be Legos. It could be Lincoln Logs.

2) The cheaper the better. No need to spend $300.00 on a Star Wars set.

3) Aim for maximum togetherness. Both of you should be hands-on during construction.

4) Use the building analogy as a jumping-off point for conversation. You’re building a relationship, a family, a life together, and a vehicle for God’s work. Talk about how the “construction” has gone to this point. How well have you learned to work together? Are you satisfied with the results?

5) Take pictures. Pose with your work.

Before your date ends, take it to God. Thank God for your significant other. Thank Him for the influence that relationship has had on your life. Ask Him to help you maintain a spirit fo cooperation and mutual respect for what the other person brings to the “building process”.

DEEPER CONNECTION

Here is some scripture about building something together.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Joshua 24:15

Colossians 3:12-14

Well I hope you enjoy your date night!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Marriage Advice From A Five Year Old

Good morning everyone! I hope everyone is doing well.

This morning I was looking at MSN and came across this video. I think it is rather funny, and I wanted to share it with you. We have been discussing marriage recently, so this  kinda ties in with that.

Little kids say the funniest things. I wonder if we were to think back to our childhood, would our perception of the world around us be the same as it is today? Probably not, but it is something to think about.

Enjoy the following video.

A Realistic Guide To Love (Part 5.. You Got Something To Say To Me?)

Good evening everyone! I hope everyone’s Valentine’s Day was a success. Even though I know it is over, I want to continue the blog series I am sharing.

To start on Part 1, click here.

Just like the last posts, I am taking this information from the January/February issue of Relevant Magazine. It just had some really good stuff that I couldn’t help to share. So, enjoy Part 5!

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You Got Something To Say To Me? (How To Fight Well)

1. Remember You Are On The Same Team

In the middle of a fight, it’s easy to forget that not only do you love this person, you also ultimately want the same things. Remind yourself that you’re in this thing together, and try to figure out how you can help each other get what you both need and want.

2. You Can Stop– Really!

You don’t have to fight and fight until you come to a resolution(or one of you gives up). Take a timeout–especially if one or both of you are internal processors. Write down your thoughts, pray for one another separately and then come back together to talk it out.

3. Avoid Reliving the Same Fights Again and Again

If you’re not satisfied with where the fight ends, you’re going to have it again in a few days. If you hit an impasse, don’t just give up. Set a time to talk later, then come to a conclusion you can point back to. If you can’t agree, bring in a mentor or counselor to help.

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Now I know readers, that sometimes it isn’t that easy. Maybe it could be. The next time you get into a fight with a loved one, think of those three little ideas, and maybe the outcome will be different from what you think.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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A Realistic Guide to Love (Part 2..Dating)

Good morning readers! I hope everyone enjoyed  Part 1 of this series yesterday. If you missed it, click here.

Again, I am taking this time to give Relevant Magazine’s January/February 2011 issue the credit for the following material. Today we will take a look at the section entitled Dating.

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Call it “courting” for the Victorian allure. Call it “chronically hanging out.” Call it “mate-hunting.” Or just call it dating. Christmas is over, and romance is in the ir as the Big Day of Red, White and Roses approaches. Throughout the years, some have kissed dating goodbye, while others have kissed marriage goodbye. But dating does give you a chance to check people out, see whether you might be a match or if you find each other annoying. On the other hand, chronic short-term dating holds its own challenges and risks, including an unhealthy and unhelpful consumer attitude to relationships, less regard for the needs of the other person and more temptation to touch where you shouldn’t. If you do decide to date, keep a few things in mind.

First off, don’t be Seinfeld. Over the course of that old sitcom, Jerry, George and even Kramer dropped more than a hundred girlfriends, most for little things like shushing or napkin-doodling. Get over these. Realize you will annoy one another. Whatever–love isn’t about finding someone who meets your laundry list of a thousand perfect details.

Next, learn the Mars and Venus stuff– men and women are different. These aren’t straightjackets for how you will (or should) always behave. But you might as well get familiar with the basics and then apply them (with discernment and in addition to other fillers, such as personality profiles and love languages) to help you better understand each other.

That brings us to communication. Do it. Talk about everything. Talk about little things, like the first time you hold hands. Talk about past relationships, current needs and future hopes. Talk about what relationships you saw growing up. It feels weird, but starting with the end in mind helps you start off right. And as you read on, date on and love on, you’ll see that all this is key.

The longer you are in a relationship, the more likely it is you will hurt each other badly. You and the one you love most will probably cause more pain in each other’s lives than in the lives of the other 6 billion people on the planet. Ask forgiveness often, and forgive even more. Because you’re a jerk too.

Oh, and on purity– it’s very difficult to put hard and fast, works-for-everyone rules on this. But waiting until marriage to have sex isn’t about following some outmoded legalistic rule so the virgin bride gets to wear a white dress. It’s about following the caring advice of a God who knows what’s in our own best interest. Having sex feels like a secret and momentary thing at the time, but it’s like getting a 12-inch tattoo across your heart–it will affect you and anyone you’re intimate with for your lifetime. That said, if you have already joined the ranks of the non-virgins, it’s not too late to have an honest talk with God–and then your loved one–about the baggage you’re carrying. Wherever you’re at, give sex the due diligence of commitment it deserves.

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Wow! Powerful words here. They speak a lot don’t they? Hopefully they spoke to you, even if you aren’t in the dating scene anymore. Stay tuned tomorrow for more.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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A Realistic Guide To Love (Part 1)

Good morning everyone! I pray that each and every one of you will have a great day today.

As I stated in my last blog post, I am sharing with you some articles that I found in the January/February 2011 of Relevant Magazine. The following article I will be breaking up into sections, because it is longer than I want to put in just one post. So sit back and enjoy!

A Realistic Guide To Love (What True Intimacy Looks Like At Every Stage) by Adam and Chrissy Jeske

Love. It’s a word that brings out the sappy in some, the shivers in others and a steely-eyed determination in still others. For everything it is (and everything it isn’t), love is rarely portrayed very realistically. Most of our pop culture–which, really, is where many of us have learned what love”is”–depicts love either at the beginning, during that stage of all-consuming romance, or at the end, in the final throes of soul-crushing monogamy. But we don’t live every day in the extremes; like so many things, love is simultaneously more complicated and simpler than we think. Love is mostly about the mundane, everyday, pragmatic details. This realistic guide to love offers tips and advice on the nitty-gritty in every period of romance, from those early dates, through the “I’do’s,” then on to the first child and the inevitably challenging long haul. We don’t want you to give into rom-com fantasies–but we also don’t want to crush your spirits. Our credentials? We’ve been married for more than 10 years. We have two kids. And we still love each other.

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Well readers, I am excited about sharing another part of this article with you tomorrow. For the record, I have been married a little over a year and a half, and don’t have any kids. I just thought this article would be something that everyone can get something out of.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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Husbands and Wives

Hello again readers! Wow.. Two blog posts in two days. How long has it been since that happened?

Anyway.. Today I wanted to talk to you about marriage (Listen up those of you who are just in dating relationships as well). This post is similar, yet different, than the post from yesterday.

As you may or may not know, communication in a relationship is one of the most important things you need to have the relationship thrive. Without it, why be in that relationship?

Now I am no expert in the field of relationships, but I just wanted to also point out that in the field of communication, there are different languages we can speak in. For example, there is:

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time

Receiving Gifts

Acts of Service

Physical Touch

For more information go here. There are lots of resources for you to learn more. If you haven’t read the book, you really need to.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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