Friday Night Date Night (04/17/2015)

DateNightGood morning everyone! Today is Friday, and what does that mean? It’s date night! See ladies, I told you I would be posting just for you. The date nights will be posted every Friday while I am blogging through The Dude’s Guide to Manhood. Each date will be different, and will be coming from the book 52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide For Praying, Playing, and Staying Together by Randy Southern.

THE LEGO DATE

Can two adults really have a great date with nothing more than a pile of small, brightly colored notched bricks? That’s the question the Lego Date aims to answer. The key is not necessarily the activity itself, but what it represents—- and what it encourages you to talk about. During this date, you are building something as a team—- just as you are in your life together.

1) Choose your medium. It doesn’t have to be Legos. It could be Lincoln Logs.

2) The cheaper the better. No need to spend $300.00 on a Star Wars set.

3) Aim for maximum togetherness. Both of you should be hands-on during construction.

4) Use the building analogy as a jumping-off point for conversation. You’re building a relationship, a family, a life together, and a vehicle for God’s work. Talk about how the “construction” has gone to this point. How well have you learned to work together? Are you satisfied with the results?

5) Take pictures. Pose with your work.

Before your date ends, take it to God. Thank God for your significant other. Thank Him for the influence that relationship has had on your life. Ask Him to help you maintain a spirit fo cooperation and mutual respect for what the other person brings to the “building process”.

DEEPER CONNECTION

Here is some scripture about building something together.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Joshua 24:15

Colossians 3:12-14

Well I hope you enjoy your date night!

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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I GOT DUNKED!

Hey everyone! So, as I promised I would share with you my baptism story. This may end up being longer than you care to read, so I will apologize now.

As you can read in the My Testimony section of my blog, I have been a Christian since 1998. I was originally baptized when I was a small child. I again was baptized in 1999; one year after my confession of faith. I then was baptized again to join a Baptist church after moving to OKC in 2004. My final baptism was at NorthChurch.tv April 15,2012.

You may be asking yourself, why all the baptisms? What are you trying to accomplish?

Well the latest baptism (and my final), took place because I was not in the spiritual place I needed to be in. I felt like God was telling me that I needed to re-connect with Him. I also had been going through some depression.

The Easter weekend that came before my baptism, my family buried the ashes of my grandparents. During the family memorial, I felt a need to make my life right.

So, below are pictures of my baptism. Thank you Brian Cromer for performing it. You truly are a great friend!

So until next time readers, God Bless!

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Questions…

Good afternoon everyone. I hope everyone is doing well. It has been a little while since I last wrote. I want to apologize about that.

Life has been really crazy for me these last couple of weeks. I went to the ER with asthma issues. Along with that, my  remaining grandparent passed away April 4th.

A lot has been going through my head lately, mostly related to my grandpa’s passing.

A little back story of my grandpa. He and my grandma were married I believe, 51 years, before she passed away in 1998. What an amazing marriage they had. He was a very outspoken person, but also kept to himself. There are things I really wished I would have talked to him about before is Alzheimer’s got so bad, you couldn’t carry on a conversation with him. I knew my grandpa grew up Catholic, but he was non practicing when I knew him. He made wise decisions about money, which with those decisions, he got to enjoy life after retirement. He was 87 when he passed. He lived a long and wholesome life.

I guess the questions I would ask him, would be the following if we could sit down and chat.

How did you keep your marriage alive and happy all those years?

What are your beliefs about God and Christianity?

I am sure there would be more, but those are the main ones…

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Today at church, Pastor Rodney mentioned  questions we have for God, and how those questions really can’t be answered until we meet our maker. Mostly they are questions that begin with the word… Why? I guess the only answer we can have to questions we have for God, should be answered by trusting Him. I know that is hard, and even I am dealing with that right now.

Why is life prolonged at the time of death, when the inevitable is going to happen?

Why do not so great things happen at the worst timing?

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If you are the praying type, please pray for my family during these emotional times.

Until next time readers, God Bless..

Marriage Advice From A Five Year Old

Good morning everyone! I hope everyone is doing well.

This morning I was looking at MSN and came across this video. I think it is rather funny, and I wanted to share it with you. We have been discussing marriage recently, so this  kinda ties in with that.

Little kids say the funniest things. I wonder if we were to think back to our childhood, would our perception of the world around us be the same as it is today? Probably not, but it is something to think about.

Enjoy the following video.

Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Magazine Challenge

Good morning readers! Today we are going to be featuring a blog post from Brian Cromer. Brian is a friend of mine and also the Student Pastor atNorthChurch.tv. His Blog is BrianCromer.com.

(This blog post was originally posted on February 18,2009 )

I have subscribed to Sports Illustrated for years. As a subscriber to Sports Illustrated, the annual Swimsuit Edition (first published in 1964) gets sent to my house every February.

Here’s the cool part…

I have not seen one picture or one article from the Swimsuit Edition in years. Every year my incredible wife gets that particular issue, rolls her eyes at the super models who are not wearing their swimsuits, and immediately throws the issue in the garbage.

My 2011 issue came on Wednesday. It went in the trash on Wednesday and I never knew it came to the house.

I love that she does this for me. The raw, honest truth is that I probably do not have the strength to do it myself. Granted, I might throw it away but not without first taking a peek. (I care here you thinking “but you’re a minister!” Yeah, you are right, I am an honest and real minister.) I cherish the fact that my wife cares about my purity enough to help me succeed. She gets it. She makes me a better person. She makes me a better follower of Jesus.

Some people might think “who cares?” or “what’s the big deal?”

Here the truth…

I know I am not missing anything. My eyes have better things to look at. I have better thoughts to think about. I got a hottie that I am madly in love with and who loves me back. Who needs the Swimsuit Edition? I know I don’t.

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Here’s the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Challenge…

Follow my wife’s lead. If you get the Swimsuit Edition, throw it away. If your husband/son/brother/friend gets the Swimsuit Edition, take the initiative and throw it away for him (like me, he probably doesn’t have the strength to do it himself).

You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.” – Jesus in Matthew 5:27-29 (NIV)

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I hope you like today’s Feature Friday. Go check out more at Brian’s blog. I know you will enjoy what you read.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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A Realistic Guide To Love (Part 8.. In It To Win It)

Good afternoon everyone! I hope your time of worship with the Lord this morning was awesome!

Today we finish the blog series that we have been going through. It has been taken from an article in the January/February issue of Relevant Magazine. Click here to start with Part 1.

So enjoy the finale of A Realistic Guide to Love.

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In It To Win It

As the years tick by, some couples settle into an amazing bliss. Those six people are fortunate. The rest of us will run into epic personal struggles, both within our marriages and beyond. We don’t learn in school how to deal with miscarriages, debt, depression or unfaithfulness.

These serious needs underscore the importance for deep community, solid mentors, excellent communication skills and habits, grace, patience, forgiveness, conflict resolution and big faith. One piece of advice that has proven invaluable was to remind ourselves that we’re on the same team. If we’re talking about something, even if it’s where one person really hurt the other, we’re trying to work it out and move forward together.

We’re also learning to be gentle on each other. We all react differently to stress–some become militant commanders, some look cool while choking on internal tension, some lose sleep, some sleep more, some cry, some can’t handle seeing tears. Learn how you each react to stress, and be prepared for your spouses’s reaction, as well as to tame your more damaging reactions.

From the first days of our marriage, we had a saying: “The honeymoon never ends.” It leads to adventures and laughter, memories and romance, optimism and joy. It is the long-term effect of the “date your mate” principle. You might not have two weeks in the Cayman Islands, but a picnic of bread, cheese and chocolate next to spring blossoms is pretty fine too.

Build traditions to encourage and facilitate what really matters–assign an evening for a tea/coffee/hot cocoa date at home. Make space, time and a routine for prayer together. Read a book that can motivate your love, for God and each other.

Keep finding mentors a stage or two ahead of you. Don’t just talk about your life–talk about theirs. Hear their struggles and how they work through them, from talking to their kids about puberty, to parenting angry teenagers to caring for a spouse with a terminal illness.

Love feeds on the times you stop and thank God for the precious person you have the privilege of sharing life with. So thank God. At the same time, don’t let your focus only and always be on each other. There’s a world of need out there, and some of the finest marriages around are in the tick of it, serving side by side.

And perhaps some day you’ll be that married couple with the smile-wrinkled faces whose lives after umpteen dozen years together still shine with such love that the word “awww” just slips out of your mouth when he reaches for her hand.

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I hope you enjoyed this series and learned a bunch. I know I did.

Until next time readers, God Bless!

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